Shadow & Light Part 2
I have some new insights now : if I only see the light in people and ignore the shadow, I am in a way, living in denial and avoiding - so yes, it is living a fluffhead fantasy. And since I can't lie to myself and get away with it, I would know. And the person would also know.
What I would do differently from now on is to acknowledge the shadows that i see and either care enough to give honest feedback. Or just keep focussing on the light and magnify that until the light shines brighter than the shadows.
Be real. See things as they are. And then work on it.